Dear JMS55,

There are members who will undoubtably respond more usefully, yet I am up early and thought I would at least let you know that my heart is with you today.

You have been, and are going through, what must surely be the most difficult time of your life. It's likely not what you ever imagined for your family and also is a horrible commentary on our healthcare system. More on this another time..

Yet you can and you will get through this. You are getting through this, with every breath you take in and let go, with every word you write, with every tear...

Keep doing what you are doing: let your anger and grief and sadness and pain and exhaustion (I can only imagine how tired you must be) wash over you, reach out to anyone and everyone for support, and trust that--little by little and nonlinearly--your life will be there to enjoy again, believe it or not.

Your husband was clearly lucky to have you there for him; now please be there for yourself.

Rose