Dear Debbie,
Would your husband be willing to go see your therapist for one or two sessions with you?

My therapist got my husband to come in so that the three of us could talk about ways to help me. (The therapist was not directing anything at him necessarily -- only discussed ways for him to work with me better at home.)
We've done this once a year for the last three or four years.

The first few times I brought him helped tremendously.

M.