Not sure where the disability thread is. But I'll keep a eye out.

I can really understand the problems you are dealing with.

I have a husband that has never really, till recently understood
that our son's have problems.

But then I started having health problems too. And he had to
step up to the plate and take over for me.

So he had to start trying to understand what I dealt with daily.
Even for my oldest who was at that point a adult, and is about
23 and is now 28.

He has many issues, and is changing daily. Right now he needs
so many kinds of help. That I wouldn't know where to start.
My husband seems to be getting through to him. When no one
else is. So he is in charge. And as of yesterday, he got a wake
up call about his mother, again. The daughter in laws, had been
more her caregivers. And now the son's are doing more. Because
she needs them.

Oh you don't need to here my soap box problems

Sorry
Donna