Dear Debbie,

My hubby sometimes gets overwhelmed by this and then makes things worse for me.

1. Sometimes I can try to help him help me by kind of giving him a 1/2 day or one vacation from me. I send him on an errand or help him find something to do so he can get involved in something other than my issues.

OR

2. Sometimes if I am in good enough shape I hide in my room and leave him by himself so he has some alone time and does not have to hear about my needs.

This works but usually when I most need him I am least likely to give him a break from me.

3. Can you get anyone else besides your husband to come visit you or sit with with you for half a day?


It's not his fault that he is not perfect. He is probably good to you most of the time.

I wish that you had other people to lean on besides him.

M.