thanks guys its been really interesting reading this thread even though hubby has been dx for much longer than some of you even us carepartners loose track of the fact that the person we love has a disability that has more drawbacks than we care to know about. I've lost track of how many times I've said to my husband (not always nicely either) "you make so me mad its not what you say it's how you say it" And he honestly doesn't understand why I'm so ******. He thinks he was joking but it doesn't come out that way. Your never to old to learn new things I should have known better and in the future will certainly show more compasion in some things that I've been sorely neglecting. The obvious signs and difficulty are easier to deal with then some of the more subtle things that we don't always see even when liveing with them denial aiin't just a river in Egypt so thanks again for this thread it's been a head turner for me anyways