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Old 09-06-2010, 08:41 AM
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Originally Posted by Alffe View Post
thank you Chemar!

Tom, I trust you will find us here. On rereading some of your posts..

"The question comes down to this: do I want to be a burden to my family and others for a long, long time, or to be a burden for a week or two, settling my estate and so forth? Both are burdens, but I submit the latter is a lesser one."

I beg to disagree with a week or two of grief. Trust me when I tell you that it years of guilt and pain when someone we love suicides. You say you are far away from family and friends...that surely must add to your depression. Those of us left behind always wonder if there was something we could have said or done...we ask WHY until we realize that we'll never know for sure...we say What IF....or IF only.....

I don't know if some of those links Lara left in the old assisted threads still work but they were excellent ones.

http://www.abc.net.au/4corners/conte...7/s1914206.htm

Welcome Tom to our little "family". We "get it" here...can't wait until you meet DMack (David).
Hello, Alffe: Thanks for your thoughtful words. "Why?" "What if?" Well, thanks to this forum, it's becoming clear to me that PRECISELY what is needed for someone contemplating taking their own life, is to fill in the blanks as much as possible. That means leaving a written legacy. Of course, those accounts can never be complete; perhaps, that is the way it should be. "Wonder is the beginning of philosophy": Aristotle.

I read the full 4corners transcipt, about elderly, very aware people thinking about ending their lives. Something else is shaping up: I'm not sure that those people should be placed in the category of "suicide." In their case (and mine, I'm beginning to suspect), people who are elderly, in pain (or severe discomfort), facing a disease with no known cure and which is getting worse, are not in the same boat -- although we put them there -- as people who commit suicide for other reasons, e.g., economic hard times. Eventually, maybe this forum will make the distinction which presently is lacking. For now, our vocabulary lacks words and expressions to fill that gap. As more people live longer, have more physical and psychological problems, the terminology will emerge.
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