Welcome Jaycojade -

So sorry to hear how awful this has been for you, and must be even more so for you after what happened with your father years and years ago. I hope that the doctors are doing their job and I hope that you all are referred to some trusting and great mental health professionals that can help your son out the best they can, as well as the rest of the family.

I think that Tom's post is helpful regarding "middle child syndrome" but it sounds to me, in my opinion, that your son's condition (collitis) and depression must have had more of an impact and hopefully can be treated with lots of love from the family and help from the doctors and staff.

Keep us posted - hope all is well and he is smoothly recovering!