Dej

As hard as it is to watch......you aren't part of the group that's doing the grabbing. Your FIL knows that. And you know it. And you two are the only two people that matter at this point.

I would block any number that the ex or his wife call from. Give the nurse a cell number where she can reach you when he passes.

Just like you're doing now, I'd send as many cards and flowers and tokens of my affection as I could afford to send. Who cares what anyone else thinks. Really......I wouldn't give those two a second thought. What a sad existence they must have to be so shallow and petty. It just amazes me how miserable grown ups can be to each other.

They will have to answer for their actions one day. We all will......and I would not want to be in their shoes on Judgment Day.

You're a good soul.