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Originally Posted by Cblue
The other day my father in law and i were talking about my foot and back probs. He does not know I am on SSDI for bipolar, borderline personality disorder, ocd..etc...anyway, we were talking and he kept saying that I should apply for SSDI...I brushed him off. I love him to bits, and I totally trust him, but he drinks now and again and I fear that telling him the truth would be dangerous because he may slip and my wicked mother in law would start trouble and tell everyone she knows within minutes...he kept pushing the issue, so I told him I had applied but was denied...well, initially I was...so I said I am in the appeal process....I hate to lie to my father in law, he is such a great person, but I can't tell him...what should I say when a year passes and he asks again? I know I have to lie and say I was denied..I guess I am just looking for confirmation that lying is the only way. Other suggestions are greatly appreciated and welcomed!  |
I am not sure what to tell you, because if I were in your situation, I wouldn't lie. I'd just tell the truth. It's not really anyone else's business if you are on it or not, and why.
I know that some people get angry or jealous when they find out someone is on SSDI or SSI.. and a lot of people look down on those who get "a free ride from the government", even though that isn't what these programs are about.
I was just approved for SSI on Tuesday, and I am certainly not going to announce it to the world. However, I am not ashamed that I need help because my medical problems make it impossible for me to work right now.
I guess I'm not understanding why it would be so awful if it was spread around to "everyone". Yeah, it isn't their business--but what is the worst that can come of it?
I personally think that being honest is always the best solution... but if you feel that he absolutely cannot know, then I'd suggest trying to just avoid the topic or tell him that you don't wish to talk about it--rather than blatantly lie and say you have been denied. But, that's just my opinion. It is ultimately up to you--and I wish you the best.
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My name is Sarah and I am 25 years old. I have a lot of chronic health problems. Peripheral neuropathy and POTS (postural orthostatic tachycardia syndrome) keep me bedridden the majority of the time. I also struggle with degenerative disc disease, disc desiccation, spondylolisthesis, arthritis, polycystic ovarian syndrome (PCOS) with insulin resistance, allergies, sound sensitivities, and other health problems.