Hi Gretta.

I don't know how your husband feels, but I DO know how you feel. My husband has CRPS in his hand (currently in remission) and I know what it's like to have a household where one member is in constant pain. I know that helpless feeling. My husband reacted differently than yours -- he got very quiet and withdrawn rather than be a bear. Not sure which would be more difficult to take, frankly...

One thing we did that helped me is, I went to his PT sessions and learned how to participate in his exercises. We did them every single night, even Thanksgiving and Christmas. Since his is in his hand, it was fairly easy for me to help -- don't know how it would be with the shoulder but you could look into it.

Anyway, it's just a thought. It was a way for me to be involved. I wanted to help and this was one way I could. I think it was a contributing factor in his not having the allodynia that so many others have, plus I think it made him feel like he wasn't alone with his condition.

Good luck, Gretta. Hang in there!