It's not about blame. It's all about circumstance. I had a great childhood and was loved. Not that great in my mom's womb though. A lot of stress due to circumstances of mom's life at the time, and to add insult to injury, I was a breach birth and should have been born dead because of the trauma involved with my birth. The trauma was such that the odds of both mom and child surviving were minimal (small town, no doctor) but we both made it.

Nobody to blame.....just a matter of circumstance.

I lost my first baby during child birth....cord wrapped around her neck. I was a nervous wreck with my second pregnancy. Had a healthy baby girl 12 months later....however, she had very bad colic, and has always been the nervous type...still is. I'm not to blame. Again, a matter of circumstance.