I am so glad you are home safe. PLEASE have a conversation with Gerry that when running for your life, you dont stop to go back and give a ride to someone who is telling you to RUN.
Connecticut takes domestic violence very seriously, and I pray you get a restraining order or protection and tell Gerry that under no circumstances will you allow anyone to treat you that way. Stop taking current g/fs phone calls. Have Gerry explain that you are angry, and worried and want as much distance as possible between them and you. That means allowing g/fs to gossip or run info about how and where you are to this dangerous man.
Now snuggle kitties, love your safe, quiet violence free home. I am so proud of you! take a nap.