I can relate with some of my family. I feel especially though when this is a living with someone situation. A few thoughts is to tell your husband how he can help you and what he is doing to not help you. Even if he does not change I think speaking up can help a person to at least speak up. It did for me. I agree about therapy together as well. Do you have other supports? I know it does not take away the fact that a close person does not understand but it can help in other ways. Would he read a book on rsd or articles? I am sorry for everyone who faces people who don't seem to understand or have compassion. For me I was talking about this with my psychiatrist and was saying for some people in my life I don't expect them to understand but I do expect them to not judge or make comments that are unkind.