oh Sally. I can relate. for a solution to the pills: DH went to Walgreens and got a gizmo that grinds pills. Cats are happy for wet food, just a little in a bowl so that all the med gets eaten.

as for the eyes. honestly, my cat is too strong and this week, we left him at the vets. it costs a bit but he has lost the eye. i just want the redness to stop any of his pain.

the walgreens gizmo was about ten dollars.

I know your stress.