Hi ~ I'm so sorry this is happening. Anyone who knows anything about alcoholism knows that you can't make an alcoholic stop drinking ~ HE has to stop on his own. No amount of begging, threatening, pleading, etc. will do it. He has to hit bottom and want to stay sober more than he wants anything else. I PRAY that he is at this point now. And I hope it's not too late.
The family of alcoholics suffer the most ~ alot because they don't understand the disease of alcoholism and they don't understand the alcoholic. The group Al-Anon is wonderful ~ they can help you learn to live with an alcoholic without enabling him, and without losing yourself to the disease. They teach you to have a life of your own while living with an alcoholic. Your life doesn't need to revolve around your brother. It shouldn't. Try to get the whole family to Al-Anon. Your brother needs AA.
I wish you the very best of luck. I pray he makes it thru this crisis. And I pray he never drinks again ~ he has the choice not to, with the help of AA. God bless and take care. Hugs, Lee