This is so interesting. I fully understand women are totally geared to nurture and put others first. Sometimes the one who MUST come first in order to keep going is the woman.

Simply put it to your husband as a "problem" you're wrestling with and just talk about it. Being a "man" our first instinct is to "FIX PROBLEMS." Thus he will come up with a, or several, solutions to "Fix the Problem." See how this works?

I know this from experience as my wife was at a tough point between me, kids in college, work, and family. Bottom line, I sent her to the beach for a three day get away all by herself staying at an oceanfront inexpensive hotel off season. She returned a completely different woman.

Do what women are so good at doing, make it seem like you're getting away by yourself and his going away hunting is totally "HIS" idea. Bada-Bing-Bada-Boom everybody wins.