Just so much you don't need to be dealing with along with your RSD..I have always said 'this is why birds eat their young'! I have always been the tough love kinda of Mom.. As in..Oh you don't want to wear your jacket, it's 30 degrees outside??? Well, young man..freeze.. you'll wear tomorrow, I bet! Lots of time kids love just the attention these stressful behaviors cause..even if it is negative attention..it's still attention and control on their part.. How about this one..Oh it's 10 pm..you need your football jersey cleaned for the morning ...well..you hike down the steps..start the wash and now YOU stay up and be sure it gets in the dryer!! Good night, iam going to bed now... The cool side of all of this is I do this with a smile on my face..no cross words or arguing just plain ole' Iam the no can do MOM! Sorry its not possible... I guartentee the next the he needs his jersey done. He'll either ask me earlier OR wear it dirty..My ole' famous line is 'pick our battles'..Since my RSD, I have trained myself NOT to place expectations on nobody..as to protect myself from being dissappointed when others don't perform as they should..(actions or verbalizations)... as I know my limits now with RSD and sorry but RSD pain comes first..it's reality and that is on my plate, not theirs, least not as much as mine..so when we are talking selfish behavior, I can be the masteress-es!!..AND if they don't show me compassion or respect then I don't return it..when they get around to sharing concern and compassion for me then I will return it then and only then! The trick is doing it all with a smile on my face and heart!!

Finz..hold in there..We all want you to feel better and are right along beside you on this!!!

You are loved!!

Kathy