Tami,
I hate the big to do around the holidays. I rather stay home and not get into visiting at all. I used to do the BIG dinners, inviting both sides of the families. It got to be too much a long, long, time ago.

Thanksgiving is not a religious holiday, it is a day to give thanks for what we have, and pray for those who don't have much. We can give our thanks at home, and as Vic said, with BB & J sandwiches if we want.

Christmas is very overwhelming, IMO. That is a religious holiday for me, not the commercialism that they make it. Same with Hanukkah for others.

I love my family and miss them, but when I can't do something I have to say no. They may not understand but they are young and able to run around. I had those days.

Like you and your dear Olhipie, it is time to relax and enjoy life, not make it harder just because the kids or others family members want it their way.

I'm glad Olhpie is doing better. Big hugs to both of you.