oh there is so much fighting and etc, sorry to say i am even related to some of these people ,and my father was a vry very abusive man,i have no fond memories , but i wanted to do the right thing,and prayed hard on it ..its not worth the stress and agrivation he will project on me , so sometimes ya gotta learn it ok to cut yr losses. and move i hope God understands most the fmil has cut him loose along time ago, there is one needy, greedy grandaughter who getting money fromhim so she can do it i did warn the nursing home to get state involed ..