Marilee,

Sounds like you are headed in the right direction with your husband. When my wife finally read some of the neuropsych reports and saw me struggle to put together a Worker's Comp claim, she finally began to understand. Dr Johnson's TBI Guide was the final information she needed. Before, she did not know how to help me except to run interference/pull me away. Even that was more to spare her the embarrassment from my behavior.

We had been married for almost 25 years and she was used to me being able to do anything I set my mind to. Now she understands.

Your husband will benefit from attending a brain injury support group if you can find one. Even if he just listens, hopefully, he will hear others talk about their struggles to understand their injured loved one. Ours has a good number of caregivers/family who meet to support each other.

Spouses have a more difficult time with PCS because they have lost part of their life partner. Those spouses who are willing to try to understand are saints. Consider your husband and your marriage as your top priority in your recovery. What ever you need to do to help them tolerate the new you is of utmost importance. Never blame them, They are as confused as you are.

My best to you and yours.