You are so not alone in struggling with this. Although I was talking a good talk about "learning limits" and "finding balance" I about burst into tears last night when my husband told me he was going to buy a snow blower. I LOVE shoveling snow ( kill me, I know) and it has always been my thing. We have a lot of area of shovel. and he came to the realization that no matter what the diagnosis is, this is probably something that is not going away. With his back and knees, there is no way he can do it alone. It was honestly, one of the first practical things he said that showed he was accepting this and working with limitations... and it about makde me fall to pieces... silly, eh?