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Old 12-07-2010, 05:18 PM
Robyn6447 Robyn6447 is offline
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Robyn6447 Robyn6447 is offline
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Confused Family member in denial

Hi, I haven't posted on here for a long time but I still read the posts. I have ATN, I have had it since 2004. In Dec. 2006 I underwent mvd surgery in Pittsburgh, I was told I had a 40% chance of it working but hey that;s better than zero. Long story short it failed I was directed to pain management and was put on the Fentanyl patch to help with the constant pain. I take neurontin and bacoflen also. I was put on disability by my workplace because of the patch and have been on it since May of 2007. Now for my problem, my daughter who is 28 and will be getting her master's degree in social work in Jan. has been in total denial about my condition from the very beginning. She was even present during my surgery! She tells me I am not in pain all the time no one ever is. That I use my pain as an excuse I need to get over it on and on. She makes my life so miserable. I have depression due to my condition and her and she tells me to get over it. This is a person getting her masters in psych and interning at the local veteran's hospital!! I have tried numerous times to get her to go online and read what ATN is, she will give me the excuse she is to busy and has other things needed done. I gave her one of my Striking Back books to read same excuse there and after having it for two yrs and not reading it she finally gave it back to me. I just don't know how to handle her, I would probably move away from where we live but she has three girls and I can't leave them tho my time with them is limited due to the pain. Anyways if anyone has any suggestions on how I'm supposed to deal with her I would love to hear it. She really is driving me crazy! She even now has diagnosed me as being bipolar even tho I don't have the symtoms other than the depression and I have seen psych and was diagnosed by them for depression. She thinks she knows more than them and has even told me she believes she is smarter than a medical doctor! Last week we ended up in a screaming match with me defending myself to her and listening to her trying to act superior to me and dismissing everything I said. I am at my wits end! They are my only family here and it doesn[t help my stress level to be treated like this all the time. Help! Any ideas??
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