well, if it aint' broke...don't fix it. what you are doing now seems to be working.

listeing, caring, making her part of the family. understanding that she does have a problem. taking that serious.

what you are doing for her seems to be exactly what you need(needed) from your brother about yourself. and like the pay it forward (could not help but sneak forward in ) it will come back to you and your family as a whole will reap the benifits.

but why not just ask her? she might tell you things that she really needs. help with her sefl esteem, listening...being a mentor with her sons. maybe teach them a few car repairs.

hon, i think you are on the right track. look at the difference in her already!

does she have a computer? maybe give her the link to phych central. i know it doesn't always work with family on the same board even though we do have some wonderful expamples.

sorry i haven't haven't been here for you much. things went from bad to you just wouldn't believe the crap.