roadrunner,

Do you have any legal claim against the drunk driver?

Or against your BF's insurance company for uninsured motorist?

You need to avail yourself of every avenue of financial and other support possible.

Does Tennessee have a victims' assistance program?

Is he contributing to your household? The last thing you need is a drain of household resources.

Have you applied for SSI/SSDI? You will qualify for SSDI in April and likely SSI now.

Get him to do the checklist and add any thought as to how you have changed. Maybe you can appease him once you know what he is missing. If he is missing a girl to go out drinking and carousing, well that ship left the port last year.

A question that is usually very successful is, "Help me understand.... how you feel.... what is different about me now... What you want me to try to do differently... etc. " If he is mature about this relationship, he should be responsive.

Push some more to get connected with the brain injury support group. There should be no need for written information besides direction to meetings. A good brain injury support group is a 'show up and participate at your will' event. There should not be too much in the way of demands on participants.

Go find the syupport group and get connected. If he will go with you, he will find others who have lost far more than he has lost.

My best to you.