Hi Andi,

It's hard to feel so upset and unsupported by someone who is important to you when you are going through a difficult time. It sounds like this has been extremely hard on you during a time that you need love and care.

Obviously I know only what you wrote about your relationship, but I do not think that it is either fair or productive for the blame of his behaviors to be soley on you. These are HIS behaviors.

I think Mark's suggestions about communication are a great way to try to have a open dialouge with your BF about his fears, frustrations, hopes and needs.

Really listen to him and try to understand what he is communicating. Because, I don't think this is all about you and the brain injury, it's about him too- his strengths and limitations, his ways of coping, his thresholds for caring and being supportive of others and his needs.

And I think what he says (and what he may not say) will provide you with valuable information. I suggest, if at all possible, that you use all the info he provides in the conversation and how he has been treating you, to evaluate if this relationship is what YOU want and need at this point in your life.

I think it's great that you are looking into a brain injury support group and I agree with Mark about connecting to financial and support resources.

-Hazzell