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Originally Posted by Hazzell
Hi Not Emo,
I rehearse things in my head too a lot. Sometimes it helps and sometimes I feel like it makes me stumble more. Also, I can get so involved in rehearsing things in my head and planning before I speak, that I feel disconnected from what's going in that moment. So I try to balance it.
Sometimes, if words aren't coming to me the way I need them to- I say "I just need a little time to get my thoughts together" or "I'm thinking a lot about what you just said and want to convey my thoughts clearly...it may take me a little time to do that" or "I'll think about that more and let you know." If it's a friend or family member that knows about the brain injury, I may just say "my brain feels foggy, I'm hearing what you're saying. Don't have my words together yet." Then there are the times when I just say "my brain feels fried."
It sounds hard with the situation with your dad. Just because you're about to officially become an adult, doesn't mean you have to handle this all alone. I hope you have friends or professionals who can provide some caring support to you. A lot of people have difficulties with their families, for all sorts of reasons (whether they have a brain injury or not!) and it can help to have someone to talk to and work through this stuff with.
What types of things are you most concerned about people asking that you won't know the answers to?
-Hazzell
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Usually when that happens it's hard to even explain what's going on, ironically because of the problem itself. I'll usually just say I don't know or I don't care, although the frustration is obvious in my voice. I might be able to try the brain feeling fried explanation though, I don't know if I would be able to try the other explanations because they're longer, which would make them harder to say or think correctly. Maybe I'll try explaining this to some people when its least likely to happen (when I'm not already frustrated, tired, etc) so they don't get frustrated when this happens.
The situation with my dad will get much easier when I move out sometime next year, but yeah for now its tough. I would talk to my mom but certain details of what happened make me angry at her too, for example she didn't even divorce him. Most days they act like nothing ever happened. ANYWAY, I could talk to my best friend, she doesn't know but I could tell her if I felt like I needed to. She's always understanding and supportive, partly because she's been through alot of the same things I have (except for this).
It's not really particular things people ask and I not know the answer to that's the problem, its just random things that I at first don't know how to respond to and then it just becomes a huge mess of things making other things worse. Can't get my thoughts straight so I can't say the right words, mind goes blank, I get frustrated, not thinking straight gets worse....fun....lol
Thanks
