thanks...i found them very interesting....it sounds as if I was the family caretaker role primarily and became the family scapegoat while still being the family caretaker. I wonder what the writers would say about that....
I guess i should start doing more research to see if mixed roles in dysfunctional families is written about on the web
thank you again
bobby
"It's easier still to simply scapegoat the caretaker for everything that goes wrong. If he's got all the answers, why aren't things better? Almost every dysfunctional family has its share of deniers who scapegoat the caretaker most of all. Because after all, the caretaker's incessant labors are also an incessant reminder that everything isn't right"
my sister was a denier and that might easily explain after all these years and i mean all, i finally have some kind of relationship with her. She still says to forget the past or let go of the past and just pay attention to good things. She still pushes herself without mercy although she said she does take five good trips a year.