Originally Posted by Hazzell

Hey Not Emo!

I know...it can be very hard to explain and help someone understand why you can't talk or express yourself clearly when you can't really talk or express yourself clearly. This has happened to me a lot and is pretty frustrating.

The longer examples I gave are things I've used in professional situations. The shorter ones I use more with friends and family. I think what you came up with about talking with people ahead of time can be very helpful. I've done this- and basically came up with a key word or phrase, like brain fried or disoriented or I'll think about it etc and so that when it happens, I can just say a word or two and the person usually gets it.

Not sure if this is helpful to you- but I've also found that I do better at talking when I'm in a quieter, less hectic environment and when I've had time to settle in with whoever I'm with and whatever setting I'm in. For instance, if I'm out to dinner with a friend and they immediately ask how I'm doing etc, I try to refocus on them for a while because I genuinely want to know how they are doing and I know with a little time my mind that just went blank will have thoughts that I can better express. Or I'll say, it'll take me a minute to get my thoughts together but I want to know about you- how'd it go with ____? Hope this makes sense.

These things help in many situations but there are still times when I feel frustrated or embarrased. And I'm trying to learn to not get as stressed about it- because stress just makes it worse. But it's a process.

I hope your friend is helpful about the situation with your parents. I know it can be really hard to have an issue that is so poignant and constantly there be treated as if it doesn't exist.

I hope you had a good weekend!
-Hazzell