I had forgiven and we started from scratch with the seven years we had not spoken...no talk about it at all and I am the kind who likes to deal with these things to get over them...however your advice is right on the ball. I am finding them so toxic that it is not worth being there. I am looking after mom when I can barely look after myself. Dad sort of removed himself from the whole thing until I started yelling and letting her know how angry I was with her behaviour...now after your info....won;t talk just ignore as I do have to go back to pack up my things......I can just imagine them in the basement going through my things now.

Ok now I am being negative and dont want to be...trying to rise above this.....have finished crying now setting up life here with Marc for the next two months until we move to Calgary.
Can't wait to start new life FAR away from them then they really will notice and realize what has been done.....although I have doubts as they still blame me for this and say I left despite the way I was treated...I didn't stay to work it out...HELLO!!! What's to work out with verbal abuse/????? I don't know it dosn't change...things I know what is right and I am the one who is honest and want to work things out.....
I guess that is enough said....but future inlaws are like yours....amazing!!! so the good Lord sends us what we can't get at home in another way! We are looked after we just have to see it. And our view is what is the most important part!

I can certainly empathize with your situation....hear your problems girl!!!

Take care
love and hugs,
Victoria