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Originally Posted by catloucle
Hello to all. I am new here. My wonderful husband died 3 months ago from non-small lung cancer. We were married 20 years and he was only 59. He died within 2 weeks of his diagnosis. I have health problems: rheumatoid arthritis, perpheral neuropathy among others. I am on alot of meds and my doctor prescribed xanax after my husband died.
I am going to group grief counseling offered by the hospice. The problem is from the time I arrive at the meeting until after I leave, I cry uncontrollably and cannot stop so I cannot participate in the conversation and don't get any benefit from the group. Sometimes it gets so bad I have to leave because I feel I am a disruption. I have alot of breakdowns in public but they usually resolve quickly.
I am already on alot of psych drugs for my various conditions including the xanax. What can I do to control myself so I can benefit from the meetings? No one else carries on like I do and I feel like I am acting like a baby. Does anyone have any advice to offer?  Thank you. |
Catloucle,
I am so sorry for your lose. Crying is a good emotion it gets all the junk out. I hope as time goes on you will feel stronger, and there is a saying "time heals all wounds".
It is so strange that I should come across this thread and I never go on this topic? My husband and I have had to deal with the trauma of emotions when your caring for someone who has non-small cell lung cancer. His mother was diagnosed 1 year ago and it has been a rollar coaster of emotions for us and much depression, pain, medical treatments for her who of course suffers the most. Nobody should have to go through all this. What advise can I give except each day things will get better. I know for me, and I'm not dealing with anything near what you are, but for me I try and keep busy with anything just to get out of the house.
Hugs, Hugs, Hugs,
Gabbycakes