I am sorry your family is experiencing such an upset, along with people who are not showing you compassion. Some people are not able to be compassionate, they lack that altogether. Apparantly the person who is showing the place is one of those people. Maybe you should ask her point blank, where her compassion when to. That might be a sentance she is not expecting. YOu can also say it with love, and confuse her even more. Set an example if you can and show her what she looks like doing that to a family. ginnie