I will tell you that in my case when I developed CRPS after a car accident where I was a passenger in a car driven by by husband, my husband of 34 years (now) and now my soon to be ex-husband, literally "took over" my life - at first like you are describing, but later he felt he could "tell me" what I should and shouldn't do - and when I tried to do something he didn't feel I should, he got very angry. I was an extremely independent woman, and made far more income than my husband did. He also tried to tell me which medications I should take and which I shouldn't - despite the fact they were all precribed by very legitimate pain management physicians - Cleveland Clinic, University of Michigan, etc. I am a Registered Nurse (BSN), and have always been extremely careful with my medications. I think I know a little bit more than he does about medications, but yet he felt he always knew better. He got to the point he wouldn't "let me" do anything around the house - and while his intentions may have been good (i.e. to prevent pain) he refused to listen to me when I told him I desperately needed to feel that I had some purpose in my life, and that I was able to do things for others than meant the world to me. He literally took away so much of who I was, that I decided I would actually be happier by myself than with him and left. He had also made the decision on his own that we no longer would have a physical relationship two years before I left - and wouldn't listen when I tried to talk to him about that. I literally no longer felt like a woman or a wife any longer. My auto insurance company was paying him to help me with the things I couldn't do - especially on bad days - and when I left, he told me he would call them and tell them they "needed to get someone to take care of me" - and I totally believed he would really do that, so I got a home health agency to have home health aides come into my home and help me. He also threatened me that the insurance company would get "tired of paying for home health aides and eventually put me in a nursing home". That absolutely devastated me - as he was playing on what he knew were my worst fears. I felt I had become nothing more than a "cash cow" to him, and that hurt immensely! He also went to one of my children just after I left, telling him how much I had changed etc., which has led to a very difficult relationship with that son - now even almost a year later. It has led to me feeling like I don't even know who I can trust any longer. He has never been able to understand what he did to me emotionally, and that was absolutely far worse than what the CRPS has done. It eventually got to the point he had very little to no compassion at all when I was in the worst possible pain and in fact got angry with me when I was. I didn't blame him for the pain, or take out my frustration on me either. I tried to live as positively as I possibily could, and tried to do all that I could for myself. He would spend as little time as possible with me -and wasn't the least bit understanding of what I was going through, or the loss I felt. It seemed like his need to control everything took over, and led to the end of our 34 year old marriage. I understand I most likely am not the same person I was before the car accident that led to CRPS, but I try to live in the most positive way I can while living with this horrible condition. He told me I should move home after the first couple days, as he could "life much cheaper than I could" so I did, but now he is trying to make a case that I am "not safe" in my home, because it is a two story and on bad days I often don't leave my upstairs bedroom. He has now had his divorce attorney attempt to supboena my medical records to prove this - which I think is unbelievably cruel - when I tried to leave and get an apartment when he decided he couldn't live in the hotel room type apartment he was in for the first 2 months. At that time, he told me I had too much equipment to move, etc. Now, he is trying to force me out of the house by saying I am not safe. Despite having 12 hour a day home health aides, I also have a Freedom Alert pendant, in the event I need help during the time no one is here with me.

I am sure there are some men out there that love their partners enough to do whatever is needed without taking over their lives, but I never in my wildest dreams would have ever, ever have thought this could have happened to me!

I think you should proceed cautiously, while listening to what your heart and head are telling you at the same time. Don't rush into anything though - I'd clearly take your time and see how you feel then. Best wishes!!