Hi Cricket, I know your pain. It has been since August of 2010 since my husband and I were intimate until Valentine's Day. Did I enjoy it? No. Did my husband? Absolutely not. Did I "pay for it afterwards"? Yes.

It is such a horrible thing - we have been married for almost 13 years, we have been together (on and off/friends with benefits type situations) for about 20 years. We have always had an active sex life (even after marriage) until 2007 (the accident). I feel awful because I know he misses the intimacy as well as I do. We can't even "snuggle" at night because of the pillows surrounding my body and the wincing I do even in my sleep.

Let me know if you manage to find a way to safely please your husband.