real mom and I had a long talk last night. She was upset that DD was preferring me for comfort and guidance and seeking my counsil instead of her, and wanted to know if she had done something so terribly wrong that her child couldnt trust her. I had to point out that as a very young teenager she was allowed to wander from this womans house, and not given much care or guidance when she was in it. when we took her in we gave her massive amounts of medical care to figure out what her troubles were, we listened, we hugged, we sat down to speak, instead of shouting across a room...we validated her as a young woman and helped keep her on a path. All of these things lay a big imprint on a young woman and it cant be helped that mom simply couldnt/wouldnt be there. So, I had to comfort real mom too last night for her own transgressions which has led to this place where what she thought was healed still shows the cracks of where it was repaired. Really tender territory to walk on.

we are headed out to the house today. the insurance inspector is allowing us in to see if we can salvage any items. We are also looking at a few apartments that I lined up today. She has decided that she no longer wishes to share a house with real mom even after the house is fixed. Real mom is having a hard time with that.

So, its a big day, say a prayer.