For my Dad we asked that donations be made in his name to the Hospice he was in. People did that and sent flowers! My house looked like a florist for quite a while afterwards.

You talking about the food at the hospice made me think about how well we were all treated when my Dad was there. If I had had an appetite and had eaten all the good things that were brought for us and the other families who were staying there I'd have gained quite a bit of weight! There was always someone bringing in some goodie. It was nice not to have to think or worry about when and where we'd eat.