DD13's trainwreck of a biological mother has indeed blown into town. They are supposed to go see a movie with the youngest kid and grandma today.

This is the first time they have seen each other since mom decided to drop in for a surprise visit when DD was 8 and had all of 5 words to say to her.

Her mother has moved back to KY to live with her uncle and his wife and their kids and the roomate... 9 people under one roof. She walked out when DD was 3, came back for the divorce when she was 5 pregnant with another baby, and then disappeared until she was 8.

Now all of a sudden she is back in town and bombarding DD with promises and vows that the grown ups know she will not keep. DD can't log onto FB without her mom messaging her.

I am worried. I have a right to be worried. This woman has been MIA for the last 10 yrs and been married 3 times and divorced and has been a drug addict. I am worried about DD. I want to hope that this woman has changed like she claims but I cannot believe it.

I want so desperately to snatch DD away and keep her safe from this woman but I have to face the fact that this is her mother, I cannot protect her or learn her lessons for her. I see a trainwreck waiting to happen. I see DD getting hurt and being let down and I cannot do anything to stop it.

Hate this feeling. WHy do our children have to learn lessons on their own? I wish I had a magic ball that would show DD the outcome so she can skip the heartbreak part.