Actually, in my early days of PCS, I did not understand as well as I do now and my family was totally out of the loop. I was somewhat of an outcast with my struggles and behaviors. But I did figure out the need to Be Still.

After an earlier concussion in 1995 or 6, I developed a very apathetic attitude. This did not work well for me. The "I don't care" thought process is damaging. The "I can let go of or get beyond of what just happened and go on with life" has resulted in a much better state of mind and fullness of life.

Those in my TBI support group who are doing the best have also learned this 'Turn the page' attitude. It is liberating.

The only past that is bad is those times where we over-reacted and made things worse. The rest we can deal with and try to make amends if possible.

It is a philosophical or for some of us a religious decision to accept what has happened without making things worse by reacting or over-reacting.

It can take some serious and deep introspection.

Those of us who comment how our lives have changed for the better even though we still struggle with annoying and disabling symptoms have most likely arrived at this decision.