Kelly - I'm sorry someone did that to you. I think it was wise of you not to respond right away, if at all. But, if you decide to respond, I would let them know what life is like for you having MS and not being able to work.

I find that people have a misconception about being disabled and not working. It is not like we can run around, have fun, and do what ever we want. That is not our reality. Reality is, our bodies are dictating what we can and cannot do on a daily basis. I personally would much rather being working a full-time job then sitting thinking, "Dang it all! I'm too tired to get up and go to the bathroom." or "I can't walk to the mailbox today to get the mail" or "I really want to go to the grocery store but can't manage driving a car today."

There are website links you could send them including the SSA website about how they determine if you are disabled. And, you can be a smart ask and have them go through all of that to find a disability to get them on the "gravy train." Which, btw, it is not a gravy train when you have Medicare premiums, medications to purchase, and co-pays to pay, and things like that. There is very little "gravy" left for bills after all that. Of course, once you explain to them that they have to have their drs. support in applying and all that they may have to go through to get SSDI (denials, appeals, independent medical evaluations, appearing before a disability judge, etc.) they may not think it is worth it as they have no supporting documentation to back up their claim.

You could send them the Spoon Theory and alter it to relate to your life and what you have to deal with.

But, all in all, I think this persons comments and stuff were just rude and they don't need an explanation from you or anything. Just a simple, thanks for your concern but I don't like to discuss my disability, might be enough.