My TOS became obvious during pregnancy. I had mild symptoms for years but never would have known something was amiss until I got pregnant, which is when I was diagnosed. No doctor can explain why this happened. Things got pretty bad late in pregnancy (my guess is because of the extra weight and expanding rib cage). One specialist told me sometimes pregnancy relieves symptoms because the hormone relaxin relaxes the scalene muscles.

As far as caring for a child, it is quite difficult. Childcare, especially of an infant, is full of repetitive arm motions. Not just holding the child, but preparing everything the baby needs. If I could afford it I would have someone come in a few times a week to take care of my four-month-old because of the difficulties with my TOS.

It is also stressful to the family dynamic. I cannot do a number of things my partner and I agreed I would be responsible for (the discussion happened before I was diagnosed). It breaks my heart not being able to provide for my family as well as I want to. That being said, I've never denied my daughter what she wants or needs because of my arms.

My biggest piece of advice is make sure you have the financial, emotional, logistical support in place before having a child. And be honest with yourself that your TOS will pose a challenge to raising a child. Feel free to ask me any questions about the topic.