We don't have to understand, just support.

I like your idea. If she agrees to be sober, then you can stay. If she renigs, then you have to go. It's a fine aggreement and you both deserve for things to go well. I hope she can do it, because you really just can't any more.

Funny how when we get rid of one toxic relationship, we often start to target the other toxic relationships. My brother is a different man when he is sober as well. I love him. He is my life, my lite and my joy. I hate him when he drinks. I'll tell you more about it later if you want. I just want you to know I empathise with how hard this decision is.

I am so excited to hear about programs out there to help you out and give you a break!! YEAH! Oh, you need this so badly.

About the hubby in your other post. Jerk. He doesn't deserve any more of a label than that. He's just a nothing, nobody, useless, jerk. Kick his butt, love. Good call on getting in touch with the po. Keep up the good work.