Hi everyone...I have been a mess today. I let my sister know that I think we shouldn't talk for a while. I can't ... it is too damaging. She really dislikes me. I get along with my other 2 sisters and 2 brothers...I don't get it. I know I shouldn't care if she dislikes me or not, but it stings like a thousand bees when she says terrible things. I was supposed to buy her car from her. She lives in NYC and i live an 2 hours away. i told her i would meet her 1/2 way to test drive it...i had back surgery about 8 weeks ago so i can not drive too far....anyway...she got mad and told me that either i buy it or i don't...she doesn't have time to let me test drive it. Um...is she serious????
Yes, i understand that the answer is to stop talking to her....done...I am just trying to get through all the mental craziness that this has all caused.
Thank you guys so much for listening. You all have really good advise. I am thankful that I found a place that I can be given advise, and maybe give some advise to someone in need.
Thank you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Originally Posted by OhKay
Hi Cblue. Welcome!
I'm sorry about the difficulties with your sister. It sounds like she may have some issues of her own...
I think the majority of parents yell at their kids at some point (more like points). It's ridiculous that your own sister would threaten to report you for that. I wonder if CPS would laugh at her when she called?
I often get urges to write nasty replies via email. Once you hit send, you can't any of those words back, and time usually mellows me a little, so I end up feeling bad.
You may want to keep her at a safe distance for a little while because she's triggered some s/s thoughts.
I hope that you are safe now, and your shrink and/or therapist have come up with a plan to deal with moderate to intense s/s urges.
Thank you for posting! You're not alone.
Kay |