I hear you. Lou Lou is also a friend of mine who is going though alot. I feel what you do. You do find out who your friends are in crisis, and yes of course it effects your family. I have this little paragraph that I read now and then..."no one will demean or in any way violate the sanctity of another creature. Every barrier that prevents or limits intamacy between us will be removed for all eternity. We will be healed of all brokenness and distortions."
What we can do, is reach out to each other a bit more when things get to tuff to handle alone. I will be thinking of good people right here that need each other. Please write back, write to lou lou too. Think of that little paragraph.
I am disabled too, but I still work on mosaics to keep my mind from all the things around me that cause me to cry. If there is something you can engage in that helps take your mind away from the pain, even a placebo, try to do it. Talk yourself into a better place even if it is just a minute or two. ginnie