Originally Posted by Alffe

Rarely in other deaths do we encounter any feelings of responsibility. Diseases, accident, old age...we know instinctively that we cannot cause or control these things. But the suicide survivor - even if they were only on the periphery of the deceased's life - invariably feels that they might have, could have, or should have done something to prevent the suicide. This mistaken assumption is the suicide survivor's greatest enemy.*

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dns...should have..could have? My last words to my son Michael, hours before he put that gun in his mouth were..I love you. And he replied, I love you too Mom. It didn't make a bit of difference in his "spontaneity".
He "chose" "reacted" to his life without thinking.....period.

*Jeffrey Jackson A Handbook for Survivors of Suicide