first off let me say . god blesns you stay strong it will get t better . 2nd my i lost my dad last march 4th 2010 of liver cancer i took care of him for a year . and three months after i buried him my fiance was diagnoised with cancer . so back to nurse mode. the day before hissurgery we got in a fight over his mom rudes remarks who has done nothing. he left me . told me not to come to hospital. i did his mom was rude i got treated bad. oh well so long story short i eended up staying the whole 8 days taking care of him needless to say he came home and since nov 30th i have been driving over 60 miles every day to treatments doing everything. he is not hte same person he was good news h e is cancer free and no more treatments he has a long life. BAD NEWS IS THE MAN I LOVED SO MUCH THE MAN I FOUGHT SO HARD TO KEEP ALIVE . WE BROKE UP . HE IS GONE . AFTER ALL DID HE GOT VIOLENT NEVER WAS HE LIKE THAT AND BEAT ME BADLY I HAD TO WALK AWAY. ITS HORRIBLE BUT HE DOESNT HAVE HEAD INJURY THREE YEARS ILLNESS AND ITS OVER . YOUR HUSBAND HAD HEAD TRAUMA . UNFORTINUTLEY DEPENDING ON THE SIDE OF THE BRAIN OR AREA IS HIT EVEN A LITTLE WILL ALTER PERSONALITY HE DOESNT MEAN TO AND HE DOESNT UNDERSTAND SO WHEN U BRING IT UP HE IS REMINDED VEHAOF HIS CHANGE AND THAT IS HARD. GET WITH THE SOCIAL WORKKER FROM THE HOSPITAL WERE HE IS AND HAVE HER FIND U A SUPPORT GROUP FOR PEOPLE WITH LOVED ONES WHO HAVE CHANGED YOU NEED THE SUPPORT YOU YOU HAVE TO HEAR THAT THERE IS OTHERS LIKE YOU MAKES U FEEL BETTER AND TAKES A LOAD OFF. TRUST ME IF U DONT YOU WILL GO CRZY. TURN TO GOD ITS HARD SWEETIE GET YOR KIDS A SUPPORT GROUP THEY HAVE BOOKS THEY HAVE GROUPS FOR KIDS YOU ALL NEED THAT AND REMEMBER THIS HE IS HURTING TOO BECUS HE HAS CHANGED . COME TTOGETHER AS A FAMILY TURN TO GOD TURN TO OTHERS FOR HELP WTIH IT YOU CAN LEARN NEW WAYS TO DEAL WITH IT. THIS IS NOT EASY BUT WITH HELP AND LOVE AND SUPPORT YOU CAN MAKE IT . GOOD LUCK AND ANYTIME YOU NEED A SHOULDER GET A HOLD OF ME . GOD BLESS YOU THE KIDS AND YOUR HUSBAND . TAKE CARE VICKY