Dear Sage,
I hear your daughter is struggling to feel normal and get to a place where she can thrive in life. I read your posts and wonder if you yourself have ever gone to counselling to see how you can be more of a help to her? Sometimes when we want to help someone we love, it may be as simple as leaving them alone to figure it out and ask them once in a while "What do you need?" or "How can I be of help today"?
No one likes to be at home doing nothing all day for a long period of time. It sounds to me like you've been trying to "fix" her and that could make one feel like there is something wrong with them and create anxiety. If you give her trust and compassion for what she is going through and some time to let her figure her way out on her own, that may help. Show her what options there are for her, that you trust that she is smart enough to make her own decisions and that whatever she chooses, you will be there to support her.
Maybe getting some counselling for you could give you some insight on how you can be more of a help to her?
I have much compassion for you and I hear that you want the best for her. I hope things work out in her favour.
Take good care.
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Originally Posted by Exhausted_Sage
She had a full neuropsych eval and all processing, memory, executive functioning, language, etc came back average to above average. What did show as a problem was social problems, anxiety, and somatic issues. When she leaves school she tells me she doesn't know what is wrong and describes it as a fight or flight feeling. I know she has self esteem issues and worries about what classmates think. She also runs if she gets even the slightest bit frustrated. She doesn't do well being told what to do by anyone but me. She will start CBT soon but has not had any education outside of public schools. The school just states that she is extremely intelligent and they don't seem to understand the emotional and psychiatric side of frontal lobe injuries. The school tour she was supposed to go on today will have a low teacher student ratio with onsite mental health but she got "sick" again today and wouldn't go. She is 18 so that brings in its own problems. At times she is appropriate for her age but oftentimes I do see a 14 year old in an 18 year old body and worry that she will always be stuck there. She refuses to go to a support group. She hasn't had any hormone level testing done but has double vision with prism glasses, has had GI studiies for the nausea issue, and vestibular testing done for dizziness. Vestib and GI was normal.
Thank you, Sage
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