I am sorry to hear of your struggles. It sounds similar to a friend of mine who was hit by a car and left comatose for 3.5 weeks. He has some OCD like responses. he makes mountains out of molehills.

Her above average intelligence but poor delayed recall is a tough symptom to live with. It feeds her behavioral problems. Has she tried to learn any work-arounds for her poor memory issues. She has good intelligence and should be able to use her intelligence to deal with her memory struggles.

It sounds like a real problem since she does not want to participate in her own recovery. Have they tried to use her favorite activities to get her engaged in life? A recreational therapist may have some ideas.

I wish I could offer more. Have you been to a support group for yourself? The camaraderie of other caregivers should be helpful. The ability to talk about daily struggles and have others who understand can be a great relief.

Hope you can find a good support group.

My best to you.