Tyson, I really feel for you and am not sure what the answer is as I have a very supportive and understanding family.

Abby you are so right, if I want to garden, I'm not going to try and exercise as well, that is my exercise, 10 minutes of gardening........

I often think one way of explaining it is, the more I do and the more energy I expend, ie raking sweeping housework, the less energy I have for other things like swallowing talking breathing and walking, its a hard one to explain to some people, we do after all look so very normal.