I've been at the same church since 1996, and it seems the standards have changed dramatically in that time. I think it's societal and it's everywhere. I had gallbladder surgery in 1997, and had someone at my house everyday with a home-cooked meal.

In contrast, when I was dx with MS in 2006, I put a notice in a regional newsletter begging for help with childcare, and also put something in my inlaws church bulletin (they are a completely different denomination). I had one single response, and she backed out.

I also sent out a group email to a home school network, since I had previously had a wonderful babysitter who was homeschooled but she had to move away. I had one response from that group as well, and she was a complete nutjob!

I don't even bother asking anymore. My kids could feed themselves by the time they were two.