I agree with Daniella and would like to add she could research this herself and see the extremes that people deal with while battling this monster. It is hard to see something if it is not broken you know? the other thing is maybe once you chat with her, you could both discuss what you can do within you limitations to be the most active, involved grandparent you can be when you are together in person. When you are not, do you have web cams on your computers (or whatever they are called) so you can see your grandchild everyday, so you are there for the baby and your daughter, just not physically (as the distance would cause a gap also) just a thought!! once your daughter understands, with two minds, you can be very creative!! good luck to both of you!