Hi.

My son went to college (with no problems at all) on a full scholarship, and made the deans list three times.

At age 20, he moved out, moved 3000 miles away, started gambling and gaming and threating suicide every five minutes unless they gave him an apartment and anything else he wanted. They ALWAYS GAVE IN.

This is how he gets what he wants. I knew this was not Aspergers. I really thought it was either Narcissism or Borderline. DBT is not working for him.

Two days ago he announced again he was suicidal. He always does this on Saturday, he checks himself in, gets 3 hots and a cot, checks himself out on Monday. But he now has no place to stay. They will yet again find him a place to live with cable tv, they'll move his computer for him, AND HE'S NEVER WORKED A DAY IN HIS LIFE.

I asked a professional friend of mine "When will this stop, when will the department who decides what they do for him, well , when will they say "Hey, enough of this nonsense, we'll put you away and throw away the key".

I asked her this and she said "Believe it or not, they don't think he's mentally ill enough to be committed"

And he knows this. I told him "if you don't stop this behavior they will put you away for good".

His response:

"Mom, do you know what a 51/50 is? I said "of course". I then said "but keep this up, and they put you away for life". He said "they can't do this, I know my rights".

I then said "Who is in charge of your money? (He's on SSI).

He said "I am". I said "You're a gambler, (He just went to the casino, lost $600, which was everything he had), that's when he said he attempted suicide). I said "they let you be in charge of your money? You don't have a payee?"

He said "I wouldn't let them take over my money".

I said "but what happens if you continue to behave in this manner and they DO take over your money and give you a payee"?

He said "I'll just appeal, I've done this before".

what a shame.

Went to college, has all the brains in the world, and never applied it.

Very hard to deal with all of this.